How do you say "I love you" to her? They agreed that getting good grades, followed by good jobs and then marrying and having that precious grandchild would be how they showed their love.
你如何向她表达“我爱你”？他们一致表明只要取得好成绩，找到一份好工作，接下来结婚生子就是他们表达爱的方式。
I come from a culture where most people would find that not expressive enough, so I repeated these queries in classes over time. Gradually, I began to get different responses. Some of them had exchanged those sentiments with their moms.
在我们的文化观念中，大部分人会觉得仅仅这些表达是不够的。所以我时常会在课堂上重复这些问题。渐渐地，同学们有了一些不同的回应。一些人同母亲进行了情感沟通。
One of my favorite stories of change came from a young woman. When she came home from university, her mother met her at the door and hugged her. This had never happened before, but her mom said: "Now that you have gone I have more time to myself and I watch TV more. I noticed that in some places mothers and children hug each other and I decided it was a good idea and that I would begin hugging you."
在这些转变的故事中，我最喜爱的一则发生在一位年轻女士身上。当她从学校回到家中时，妈妈在门口迎接并拥抱了她。这是以前从未有过的事，但妈妈说：“现在你离家在外，我有了更多的时间来看电视节目。我注意到一些地方的妈妈会和子女相互拥抱。这好极了，我决定要开始拥抱你。”